Switch in Party?


So, one of my conservative (that is an understatement), Republican friends tells me today: “I want you in the Republican Party.”

To which I reply, of course, with “Why?”

“We need more diversity,” he says, “I’ve been looking at the 25 year demographics and we need to change.”

Yeah… like they really want to change and like they would really want me in the Gay Objectors’ Party (GOP). Matt a Gay Republican? I wouldn’t be able to keep my mouth shut long enough to avoid being kicked out, or worse.

Needless to say, we get into a long discussion about the various issues.

He asks, “If we gave you gay marriage, would ya’ll stop with the rainbow marches and the wierd outfits?”

Ha… as if marriage is all we need. Besides marriage equality, what about hate crimes legislation, employment non-discrimination legislation and creating safe environments for LGBT youth who are forced, by law, to attend schools in which they receive daily verbal harassment and physical assault? What about all those LGBT youth who are anywhere from 2 to 7 times more likely to attempt suicide because of the rejection, abuse and oppression they receive from their families, friends, schools, governments and society-in-general?

What about all the underground, not-so-medically-safe operations, procedures and medicines transgender people get because they can’t afford safe, reliable and adequate health coverage for themselves? What about all those gay parents who get custody of their biological children taken away just because a judge thinks their “lifestyles” are inappropriate?

What about LGBT victims of domestic violence who can’t find the proper support and safety because our government and social agencies don’t pay attention to them and their “alternative lifestyles” and “abnormal relationships?”

What about the 10,000 lesbian, gay and bisexual military personnel who have been dismissed from their honorable service for America since 1993? What about the estimated 64,000 LGB servicemembers currently fighting for freedom and serving you and me and our next-door neighbors in fear and hiding knowing that at anytime they could be harassed, blackmailed, beaten, dismissed or, even worse, killed by their fellow soldiers?

No… marriage isn’t even the tip of the iceburg. It’s barely an ice cube.

The conversation goes on and on. Honestly, I wasn’t impressed. My friend’s arguments, counter-arguments and general statements just reminded me of why and how much I disliked the so-called Grand Ole’ Party in the first place.

For all their blabbering about “compassionate conservatism” and “diversity” and “wanting to change,” the GOP really is just fooling itself. Unless all the true Republicans and the liberal and moderate Republicans speak out and start doing something, then the GOP is going to stay exactly the same as it has for years.

Not all Republicans are anti-gay or prejudiced. I know plenty of people who are Republican and who agree with me on many LGBT equality issues. The problem right now is that only a few of them ever speak out and let their voices be heard. It is going to take a lot more than a few to ever get anything changed.

So to answer my friend’s question: No I will not be in the Republican Party. I may be conservative-leaning on some issues, but on the LGBT and social issues I’m liberal to moderate and those are the issues on which I care about the most.

If you are looking for your token gay guy, don’t look at me.


Comments
6 Responses to “Switch in Party?”
  1. Roch101 says:

    “He asks, ‘If we gave you gay marriage, would ya’ll stop with the rainbow marches and the wierd outfits?’ — Matt’s friend.

    That’s very revealing. First, the supreme arrogance of “If we gave you,” as if your rights are something the Republicans will decide to dole out or not.

    Second, his condition, that you “stop with the rainbow marches and the wierd outfits,” exposes that, for your friend at least, denying you equal rights isn’t about “protecting marriage,” it’s a strong arm tactic to keep you in your place.

  2. Matt says:

    Exactly.. “My friend’s arguments, counter-arguments and general statements just reminded me of why and how much I disliked the so-called Grand Ole’ Party in the first place”

    But thanks for exactly pointing it out.

    The Republicans have never really wanted to “protect marriage.” Everyone knows that. They know it because if they really wanted to protect marriage they would be banning adultery and divorce. Everyone knows divorce and adultery is doing a whole heck of a lot more damage to marriage than gay people marrying is (because we can’t).

  3. Rudicus says:

    This all comes from that same beleif that their way is the only right way – it is absolutely amazing. Like Roch101 says it’s is not only laughable but kind of eerie that they think they can make deals for peoples rights. “We’ll only bash you 3 times a week instead of 5 if you only have one pride parade every other year.

    Equal is Equal – no discussion.

    Tell your friend that you’ll try being Republican for a year if he’ll be gay for a year – I doubt he’d want to be a Republican after that. He can start being gay tomorrow morning. Since homosexuality is completely a choice and has no biological component according to them, it should be no problem.

    Have fun with that.

  4. Matt says:

    Tell your friend that you’ll try being Republican for a year if he’ll be gay for a year – I doubt he’d want to be a Republican after that. He can start being gay tomorrow morning. Since homosexuality is completely a choice and has no biological component according to them, it should be no problem.

    Haha… Nice suggestion Rudicus. I’ll give it a try.

  5. Lance McCord says:

    “We need more diversity”

    Typical. “We need some gays to make our policy look better” instead of “we need better policy so that more gays would want to sign up.”

  6. Matt says:

    Yeah the Republicans do that a lot… But the Democrats do things similar to it.

    At the same time I both love and hate when Democratic candidates come to speak to LGBT groups or organizations. On one hand it is a chance for the candidate to learn and to have the opportunity to hear from the minority. On the other, however, it is usually just a time for the Democratic candidate to seem like he or she is supportive, get cash, get elected and then bail when it matters the most (right now the issue is marriage).

    One thing that bugs me the most about the Democrats is that they are all too willing to take gay cash but are a lot of times to cowardly to take an actual stand. What good is our money and our investment if we aren’t getting anything in return?

    Don’t get me wrong. I love the Democratic Party. I truly believe in many of its ideals and principles. I think the Democrats are the best bet to winning LGBT equality, but I’m just not seeing much in the way of current headway or current support. But… after all, I do live in North Carolina. Maybe if I moved up north or out west I’d be seeing some headway and support, but I’d really like to see more of it here.

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