Polygamy not gay marriage equivalent

A wonderful essay appearing on the Independent Gay Forum confronts the issue of some people’s connection of marriage rights for same-sex couples and polygamy.

The writer of the essay, Jonathan Rauch, says:

Same-sex marriage stabilizes individuals, couples, communities, and society by extending marriage to many who now lack it. Polygamy destabilizes individuals, couples, communities, and society by withdrawing marriage from many who now have it.

I couldn’t agree more.

I have done a post on the connection (or lack thereof) between marriage for same-sex couples and polygamy before. Entitled “Not the next civil rights battle“, the post was a horrible attempt on my part to explain my political and personal opinions on polygamy. The essay by Jonathan Rauch is a good one and it expresses many of my own thoughts in much better wording.

You can check it out at: http://www.indegayforum.org/authors/rauch/rauch26.html

(Side note: Rauch has a local North Carolina connection. According to Wikipedia, he worked for a short time at The Winston-Salem Journal)

2 Responses to “Polygamy not gay marriage equivalent”
  1. beth says:

    It’s odd you would agree with that horrible article Matt. I agree with you on 99% of stuff… but you sound like your own critics on this one.

    Rauch is assuming that polygamy is common place, just like homosexuality is not common place. Its prevalent, and growing however in the big picture of things it will probably continue to a lifestyle that will remain the minority rather then the majority. I don’t think we have anything to worry about, with men joining gangs because they are too geeky to get the girl (or girls). There is no reason at all Polygamy can’t be a good thing as long as other factors such as abuse are not apart of situation.

    The truth of the matter is gay people are afraid to align themselves with polygamists because they feel it will discredit their claim to equal rights. I think gays and polygamist should work together and fight hard to keep your rights, and your freedom to live your life how you want in the bedroom. Maybe if Gays, Lesbians, Bi, Trans, Polys, all worked together… then maybe just maybe, you could pull enough weight to become the majority, rather then 5 minorities. It’s the bickering, and lack of uniformity that’s prevented alternative lifestyles from gaining more civil rights. First it was Lesbians hating the feminists, the gays don’t care, The lesbians and gays don’t think transsexuals are legitimately related because changing sex has nothing to do with doing the other sex, and now Polygamy?

    Bottom line, America is weird and everyone here is a weirdo to someone else. If we start accepting one another rather then arguing and fighting, maybe we could put our effort into something greater and better.

  2. Matt says:

    Interesting, interesting, interestng.

    So we should not allow a group to have equal rights beause we don’t agree with their life style and/or marriage choices?

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