A local Charlotte blogger who writes at Cedar Posts and Barbwire Fences on local news and activities relating to the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department has been keeping up with the news of six chaplains’ resignations. He asserts the resignations have more to do with internal CMPD doings than the the lesbian pastor appointed to the chaplaincy. Perhaps that’s the case, but that’s certainly not what media is reporting and what CMPD brass say. (And, it should be noted, that the chaplains themselves first mentioend the lesbian pastor’s sexual orientation as a reason for their objections.)

After a week or more of writing onthe topic, Cedar added this bit of commentary:

Cedar’s View – I don’t have an argument against Gay people. I know a few men who are openly “Out” gay and while I consider them friends, they live odd drama filed lives. Nothing is easy for them, every set back is a travesty. While they would like to be accepted as who they are, they go to extremes to say who they aren’t.

Do I understand being Gay? No, I just can’t see looking as some guy’s hairy ass and thinking to myself “yum yum”. As far as lesbians, now that I get! As long as they are both hot. Which they never are. And for the transgender crowd, other than the Bird Cage with Robin Williams it is not funny or entertaining its sad. Chaz Bono still looks like a freak.

On the other hand, I have a gay friend of nearly 20 years. A couple of years ago his life long partner died after a long illness. And I have to admit there was no doubt that relationship was based on the strong and deep love they shared.

I’m so wonderfully happy and relieved to know Cedar doesn’t “have an argument against Gay people.” Actually. I’m being quite serious. No kidding. I’d assumed Cedar was like the majority of naysayers I see in and around Charlotte’s blogging and media landscape: racist, homophobic and conservative as hell (that’s not opinion, that’s not stereotype; it’s fact). But, alas, I was wrong. In this case, I’m glad to be proven wrong.

Cedar’s “view” isn’t homophobic or anti-gay, per se, but it is skewed and off-base.

Imagine any person saying, “I know a few Jews, and they are all greedy,” or “I know a few Indians, and they all have dots on their heads and smell.” That kind of logic doesn’t fly. Knowing “a few” of any kind of people doesn’t give you the full picture of an entire population. That’s how stereotypes get started. From there, prejudices develop. Combined, stereotypes and prejudices make discrimination (legal, civil and otherwise) possible.

I like Cedar’s blog. I like hearing him out and reading his opinions, even though I might not agree with many of them. I hope Cedar takes the time to get to know more LGBT people, for his own sake. Having that personal experience will make his blogging and opinion-making stronger. In fact, while I’m thinking about it, I might just ask him how to lunch.

You know, gay folks really are quite nice. We’re fun, mostly easy-going and have a great and unique perspective on life and society. And, by the way, I’d say our drama isn’t necessarily all that much better or worse than straight folks; it’s just different.

As to Cedar’s assertion, “Nothing is easy for them, every set back is a travesty,” it’s unfortunate that oftentimes his friends’ scenarios are true. Try living in a world, Cedar, where you grow up with all corners of society telling you are sick and sinful, condemned for eternity and that your life is valueless. Let’s see how easy of world that is for you to inhabit.

This week’s furor over a lesbian pastor’s appointment to the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department (CMPD) volunteer chaplaincy force hopefully paints for us a clear picture of where Charlotte might be heading in its continued journey toward full inclusion and equality for LGBT citizens and residents.

In the past, I’ve been quite the critic of Charlotte’s and Mecklenburg County’s political and city leaders. (To be fair, I’ve also been very critical of our own community’s lack of leadership.)

I’ve found many of our political and LGBT leaders more than willing to “promise” or “commit” to LGBT inclusion, equality and advocacy, and far too many of the same unwilling to take clear, principled and courageous stands on those commitments. Empty words and broken promises do not equate to “political courage,” my friends.

In October, however, CMPD Chief Rodney Monroe made clear, in a very public way, his commitment to furthering inclusion and equality within his police force. At an open forum at the Lesbian & Gay Community Center of Charlotte, Monroe sought collaboration, communication and dialogue. Monroe’s mere appearance at the event was a step forward, the first time any CMPD police chief had publicly addressed the LGBT community.

This week, Monroe made good on his commitment: He stood strong and spoke up for respect in the face of resignations from six, veteran CMPD chaplains offended by the appointment of a lesbian pastor to the volunteer chaplain force.

Monroe wrote to the chaplains (PDF):

As valued members of this Department, I’m sure you can understand my disappointment when I received letters of resignation from some members of the Chaplaincy program — some who have served CMPD for many years and were instrumental in its inception. While I understand that personal beliefs do not always align with business practices, I have always believed that we can respect our differences and beliefs in order to work together in our common goal of bettering this organization and the community we serve. This is especially important in acknowledging our greater role as a local government agency that adheres to the constitutional principle of “the separation of church and state.”

As we look around our Department, and even within our Chaplaincy program, we see people of many different backgrounds, beliefs and opinions. I respect the decisions and convictions of those who have decided to resign, as I would never ask anyone to compromise their beliefs. But I do hope that those of us who remain, continue our dedication to this Department and continue to embrace our goal of being an inclusive organization that respects the differences of all of our employees.

Monroe has proven he can be a principled, courageous leader in the face of hate, bigotry and anti-LGBT prejudice. Our city and county leaders should follow his example. LGBT community leaders should, too.

Charlotte is changing, albeit very slowly, due in part to Monroe’s ability to do his job: To serve and to protect all the citizens and residents of Charlotte and Mecklenburg County, regardless of race, religion, color, creed, sex, gender, sexual orientation, gender-identity and any host or litany of real or perceived differences you can imagine.

For that, Monroe deserves thanks and praise from our community. In addition, he deserves our loyalty and our defense when local anti-LGBT and racist activists come knocking on his door demanding his resignation or termination (such has happened before, and will surely happen again).

Monroe is a true ally to this community and all citizens of Charlotte and Mecklenburg County. He is, perhaps, among the truest we have among the very small group of local leaders regularly standing up for values of respect, tolerance, inclusion and equality.

I tip my hat to Chief Monroe and thank him for a job well done.