Yeah I know… I missed the weekly update on this season’s Real World on Wednesday evening.
There really isn’t much to stay. Most of the episode focused on Tyrie wanting to “get some a$$.” Near the end of the show though, it became just how clear the make-up between Davis and Tyrie was after their big blow out the week before. Davis was being heckled by some Colorado rednecks (with the usual “fag” and “queer” thrown in, of course). Tyrie came over and saved the day. Big, tall and strong black man with lots and lots of muscles versus tiny, drunk Colorado rednecks… yeah… they backed off and left Davis alone, lol.
Photo right (src): Tyrie (middle) gets between Davis (left & rear) and the Colorado rednecks (right) heckling him for being a “fag” in a bar
I think Davis was really impressed that Tyrie stood up for him like that, considering that only a few days prior, Davis had thrown the “N-word” around in Tyrie’s face in a drunken fit. I’d say they’ve made up, wouldn’t you?
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Last night’s “Real World” on MTV was, how can I say it… exciting… but not in the fun, anticipatory way; more like the “there was just way too much happening” kind of exciting.
After a night of drinking our “token gay,” Davis Mallory, found himself in a bit of hot water. Number one, he had just way too much to drink. Number two, he couldn’t control his behavior whatsoever. Number three, he dropped the “N-word” after getting into a fight with one of his black room mates, Tyrie. (photo right: Davis (left) and Tyrie (right) just before the blow out)
You can catch the full episode (number 4) at realworld.mtv.com.
From the beginning of this season of the “Real World” I knew that Davis and his story would be a great one for LGBT and straight youth across the nation. I knew from the beginning that our nice, white, Southern Baptist gay boy from Georgia would be able to impart some sort of lesson on the millions of people watching the show. That is one of the reasons why I decided to try and follow his story and give my commentary on it as the season progresses.
Later in the show Davis informs his room mates that he has a drinking problem. He says he’s known he has had a problem for a long time and his behavior the night before showed him a side of his drunken self he had never ever wanted to see.
He did drop the “N-word”, out of anger he said the next day. Stephen Nichols, the black, Christian room mate who had voiced some reservation on Davis’ “lifestyle” quickly forgave Davis after he apologized profusely to both him and Tyrie. The forgiveness wasn’t so forthcoming from Tyrie. After telling of his drinking problem, Davis informed all the room mates that he was seriously considering leaving the show. The girls, of course, quickly chimed in telling him not to leave. Later, Stephen took Davis on a little walk. They chatted for a while and Stephen said something of definite importance.
See… Davis grew up in the South. He may not be racist, many Southerners aren’t, but there is no debating that Davis has grown up in a society and culture (especially in Georgia) which is still, in some part at least, very racist (whether that racism is very vocalized or a societal undertone, we all know that it still exists in the South). In a situation where Davis was EXTREMELY drunk and EXTREMELY emotional and pissed off, it shouldn’t be surprising at all that he dropped the “N-word,” especially if it is something that he has grown up hearing from people in his life and community.
Stephen picked up on that and immediately realized that maybe it would be better for Davis to stay with his room mates, instead of going home. I have to say I was quite proud to see Stephen (who I thought was nothing but a guy with a thing against gays) say that not only could Davis learn more from both him and Tyrie by staying, but also that he could learn a lot more from Davis.
Later in the show Tyrie does, indeed, offer his forgiveness. He tells Davis that if he really does have a drinking problem, he can’t sit in judgment of that and that he empathizes with Davis’ situation. He tells Davis that he wants him to stay in the house and that from here on out, he’d have Davis’ back. (picture right: Davis (left) and Tyrie (right) talk it out the day after the blow out)
Davis Mallory’s story is now important in two more ways in the on-going discussion of diversity, multiculturalism, acceptance, education and LGBT awareness:
- Just because a person is gay, does not exclude the possibility that a person might also be racist, have grown up in a racist environment or have some sort of prejudices against other people for any reason.
- Davis’ drinking problem may just have the possibility to shine a light on the high rates of both alcohol and substance abuse within the LGBT community, as well as with LGBT youth in particular, and provide (hopefully) for a positive gay role model who not only deals with his problem but is also able to impart the lessons about that problem upon millions of people who may be finding themselves in the same situation.
I’m a firm supporter of the role that the media can (and should) play in promoting social awareness, social justice and putting a focus on (and offering positive solutions to) the problems that we face as individuals and as a society. Although many say that MTV’s “Real World” isn’t always that “real,” I believe that it is a perfect show for playing that media role. Hopefully, people will be able to learn something not only for their own good and well-being, but also for the good and well-being for the whole community of people we call the United States of America.
Remember… You can keep up with my posts on Davis Mallory’s story on “Real World” and check out the past posts by viewing the blog category, Real World Davis Mallory.
Photos Source: realworld.mtv.com
Last week I started up a new series, basicaly just recapping every MTV Real World episode as it relates to Davis Mallory, this season’s token gay guy.
Unfortunately, this week was all about three of the roommates and a love triangle.
So no news on Davis. BUT… next week should be a blast.
Go to realworld.mtv.com and click on the Real World Episode 4 Sneak Peek/Preview and you’ll understand why real quick.
So I’m back. Thanksgiving was great. It really was good just to sit back and do nothing.
On Wednesday I sat down to watch the premiere of Real World, Denver on MTV. I hope you got the chance to watch it. Despite the fact that the guy I think is the cutest is straight (that’s Alex, by the way), my focus is on the story of Davis Mallory (pictured right).
A few days ago I posted on the situation between Davis Mallory and Stephen Nichols. There is definitely going to be some tension between the two. Davis is a white, gay, frat boy, Southern Baptist from Atlanta and Stephen is a black, straight, Republican from Howard University.
In the first episode, Davis doesn’t come out automatically. He finds out that he is mutual friends with one of his roommates, Jenn, and he does come out to her (she has already heard a little gossip about him being gay). Davis, however, leaves the other roommates wondering, “Where is the gay person? I thought there was going to be a gay person?” For a while, Stephen is under the impression that Davis is straight and has a girlfriend (although he never said such a thing).
Jenn decides she’s going to try to help the situation out (literally). While the group is sitting at a bar she asks, “So is anyone here homosexual?” giving Davis the perfect opportunity to come out without having to bring the subject up for himself.
Stephen almost flips out and the conversation quickly turns in to a “But the Bible says…” and “You can’t be gay and Christian…” one. Later that evening is when Davis and Stephen get into the little spat when Stephen tells Davis, “There’s something wrong with you being gay.” Davis responds, “What if I said there was something wrong with you being black?”
Stephen, again, almost flips out. He tells Davis, “I didn’t choose to be black; I was born this way.”
“So you didn’t wake up one morning and say, ‘I think I’ll be a black man?'” Davis asks.
“No,” Stephen responds.
“Well, it’s the same for me. I never woke up one morning and said, ‘I think I’ll be gay,'” Davis told Stephen.
And the point was made, even if Stephen didn’t accept it.
In the first episode, Davis also tells his story of being forced into ‘Christian therapy’ to work out his ‘sexuality problems.’ He was in therapy his whole life (he told his mother he was gay in 6th grade) and throughout high school he dated girls and had girlfriends tryign to fit into the mold his parents and his therapists were trying to force him into. Needless to say, no amount of therapy worked.
Davis came out in college. He decided to no longer hide who he really was. According to Davis, his mother thinks he is ‘full of demons’ and that he is going to hell. He says his mother can’t talk to him or look at him without crying.
Davis’ story is definitely a strong one; a very strong one. I’m glad that MTV has put him on the show and I’m glad that millions of youth will get to see his story, especially the many LGBT youth who may be still in the closet, starting to come out or living as out, gay teens in high school or college.
I’m going to try covering Davis’ story here on the blog, each week as a new episode comes out. I don’t know how long the season is for Real World, but if it lasts longer than February, the series on Davis will have to stop. Until then, however, you’ll be able to catch re-caps of the Real World in relation to Davis under the new blog category: Real World Davis Mallory.
The Real Word, Denver might just hold some surprises this season as the most classic of stereotypical oxymorons meet head on: Black Republican v. Southern Gay Christian frat boy.
Davis Mallory (pictured above), described as your “typical” frat-boy type is from Georgia. He grew up in a consertive Southern Baptist family… and he’s gay. If not for him telling or for his appearance on Real World for all the world to see, you wouldn’t even think he was gay.
Stephen Nichols (also pictured above, in background) describes himself as a “black conservative.” He is president of his College Republican chapter at Howard University. He’s deeply religious and quite outspoken.
In one preview of the season I’ve seen, Stephen tells Davis, “There’s something wrong for you being gay.” Davis responds, “You just said something was wrong with me being gay? What if I said something was wrong for you being black!?”
Yeah… I’m definitely watching this season. The last season I watched regularly was Real World, New Orleans, but this season is going to be a blast.
Real World, Denver starts on Wednesday, November 22, 2006, 10pm on MTV.
I’m really glad that Davis is on the show. I think the way he was raised it really similar to how I was raised. It will be nice to see my life, sort of, pictured and mirrored on TV. Davis, like me, came out early. I came out in 8th grade. He told his mom he was gay in 6th grade. My mom didn’t accept it and used religion to tell me I was committing an abomination. Davis’ mother tried to cast the Satan out of him. I can’t just help to think about what good this will do to all those LGBT youth currently trying to make their way through the world and out of the hate and prejudice of their families, their churches and society.